Reflections on 2025
As I write this, there are just 50 days left in 2025. Discussion around New Year’s resolutions can be contentious, but I've always held a steadfast view: If they trigger a positive change, I am all in.
A new week, a new day or a new year can be a catalyst for a much-needed overhaul, or, at minimum, some valuable self-reflection.
I like to start the New Year by reflecting on the past one. What worked for me? Why? What was hard? Why? What was helpful? Why?
I have a habit of doing this regularly—daily, even—which helps me often recalibrate my business, my habits, my mindset and ultimately my life. Consistent personal accountability helps me avoid reaching the end of the year and realizing I need a huge, sudden lifestyle change.
Looking back on 2025, here are some of my personal reminders and experiences that will help me prepare for 2026.
Business
I have long believed "I am not the coach for everyone."
This brought me a lot of peace as a gym owner and personal trainer. People will go where they are meant to and work with who they need at the time—and sometimes that coach is not me.
This is such a personal business; we are invested in our clients' success in health and fitness and often develop close relationships. When clients move on, it can leave you questioning your professional performance.
I had to remind myself of this in 2025 as several long-term clients transitioned away from working with me for various reasons. I want them to succeed and be happy, so a smooth transition is important.
However, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t hit pause when this happens to professionally evaluate myself. On the other hand, it feels like Christmas morning when a prospective client reaches out because an existing client referred them based on their own success and satisfaction. I always do a little happy dance.
Fitness
Leaving comparison behind has been a work in progress for many years, but I can honestly say 2025 was the year I peaked.
Maybe it's my age, or maybe it’s my longevity in the fitness space, but I feel a lot of joy in everything I do and in everything I see other people doing. Getting a workout in is always a privilege, even on the days it's hard to show up. I don’t beat myself up over missed lifts, weights I used to lift, or, most certainly, over what someone else did. I am firmly seated in my lane, and it’s a healthy and happy place.
When I register for competitions, I look forward to seeing my fellow athletes and don’t waste a second worrying about how I’ll place. I’m truly just happy to be there.
This doesn't mean I'm not motivated or competitive, but my competitive spirit manifests itself so much more productively now. I set goals for myself that are process oriented and chase them instead of focusing solely on outcome-based goals. This switch has been a game-changer, and at 44, it’s why I still compete.
Personal
I lost one of my dogs in 2025. Over the last few years, I’ve felt that time is slipping away faster than I want it to. I feel a need to slow down and savor every second I can with those I love, while also reducing wasted time and appropriately hurrying to do important things while I still can.
I think this is wisdom emerging from age, and it’s helping me recognize my own priorities. In 2026, time spent well is the most important thing to me.
Your Resolutions?
It’s OK if New Year’s resolutions aren’t your thing, but I think taking a minute to reflect on the past year is helpful for anyone. It can give you incredible feedback about what you value and what you don't.
Even if you don't set specific goals, this reflection can powerfully influence how you chart the course for the year to come.